The Narcissism Continuum: Where Does Normal Validation Seeking End and Narcissistic Behavior Begin
Narcissistic behavior exists on a spectrum, and most people asking this question land somewhere in the middle of it. I’ve spent 28+ years in clinical practice and wrote my do
The Invisible Wound: What Happens When Children Don’t Get Enough Narcissistic Supply
You can build a career that others admire, hold a relationship together on the outside, and still feel privately like something essential is missing. That gap between how capable y
Boulder Consultation Publishes New Infidelity Page for Couples Facing Affair Recovery
BOULDER, Colo. — Boulder Consultation has published a new page on infidelity, expanding its relationship issues resources for couples and individuals living through the discovery
Am I in a Relationship with a Narcissist, or Am I Just Starving for Connection?
People don’t usually search “a relationship with a narcissist” from a calm, curious place. They search it at 11pm, after a conversation that left them feeling sma
The Perfectionism-Anxiety Loop: Why Fixing Your Output Doesn’t Relieve the Anxiety
The perfectionism-anxiety loop persists because the anxiety was never about the quality of your work. In 28+ years of clinical practice, I’ve watched clients revise, recheck,
Why High-Functioning Professionals Experience Anxiety (Even When Life Looks Good on Paper)
High-functioning anxiety has a particular cruelty to it: you keep delivering, keep showing up, keep earning the next thing, and the worry doesn’t stop. I’ve worked with
Boulder Consultation Publishes New Page on Uncertainty and Its Effect on Relationships
Boulder Consultation has published a new page, Uncertainty, addressing a pattern common among high-performing professionals: the need to know where you stand, and what that need do
Lack of Intimacy in Relationship: Living with a Roommate
I see this pattern often and it no longer surprises me. A couple sits down and describes a well functioning household with bills paid, kids scheduled, dinners on time. And when I s
Why Do People Cheat in Relationships—Even Good Ones
What I continue to find in my practice is that affairs happen because misunderstandings and resentments do not get talked about. When difficult feelings don’t get talked about,
Boulder Consultation Launches New Narcissism Page That Reframes a Misunderstood Term
Boulder Consultation has launched a new page on narcissism that reframes a widely misunderstood term. Rather than treating narcissism as a character flaw, the page presents it as t
