Why Brilliant People Struggle in Relationships – CEOs, Engineers, Doctors, Scientists

Your brain is trained to solve complex problems. But what happens when it’s a relationship issue?

I’ve found that executives, engineers, doctors, and scientists who excel in their fields often find personal relationships — frustrating and unpredictable.

Common struggles include:

  • Logical solutions don’t fix emotional disconnect
  • Work is clear-cut; Relationships are messy
  • Success at work is unnoticed at home

Unfortunately, you can’t “engineer” your way out of emotional disconnection. It takes a different approach — including uncertainty, nuance, and emotional competence.

Bright and driven people don’t have to choose between success and pleasurable connections. If anyone can have both, you can — !

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