Relationship Issues
What Causes Relationship Dysfunction?
At its core, relationship dysfunction stems from a deficit of narcissistic supply. Defined by Fenichel in 1938 as “a type of admiration, interpersonal support drawn by an individual from their environment, essential to their self-esteem.” Narcissistic supply isn’t about vanity — it’s about the fundamental need to feel noticed, valued, and connected.
It’s difficult — if not impossible — to care for yourself emotionally if you haven’t experienced enough emotional care. Without that foundation, relationships often become a search for validation, leading to patterns of disconnection, depression, anxiety, burnout.
The primary function of Relational Analysis is to restore narcissistic supply — providing the experience of being deeply seen, valued, understood, and cared about. When you internalize that experience, TRULY OWN IT, you naturally extend it to others, and connections are made easily — indicating neuronal pathways in your brain are rewired.
Breakups / Divorce
Do you feel misunderstood in your relationship, or lonely in your marriage? Are there too many arguments? or, too much silence? Do you not get recognition/acknowledgement for the efforts you make?
Stress response kicks in and exacerbates anxiety, affecting our heart rate, our breathing. We can’t sleep. We ruminate. We gear up for battle — and can’t imagine how to find relief.
Parenting
Emotional Stability: If you don’t have it,
you can’t give it to your children.
INVEST. GET. GIVE.
