In some families, kids are not allowed to talk about emotional things, express negative sentiments, or complain.
“We don’t talk about feelings (or negative things) in this family – so go to your room and don’t come out until you’re good company.”
If parents don’t acknowledge their own feeling states, honest relating and connection with their child/ren will be impossible.
But when parents are comfortable with all of their own feelings/emotional material, they create a template of acceptance, comfort, and capability for their children —where talking about almost everything (including wild rides of intensity) can be pleasurable.
Wouldn’t it be great to overhear your kid someday
say: “I could always talk to my dad.”
Until next time 🌿
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