Do you feel misunderstood in your relationship, or lonely in your marriage? Are there too many arguments? or, is there too much silence? Might you sometimes think you infuse negative patterns from your past into your current relationship and don’t know how to stop?
When we experience intense and relentless feelings of hurt, anger, or resentment, we are physiologically affected. Stress response kicks in and exacerbates anxiety, affecting our heart rate, our breathing. We can’t sleep, we ruminate, we gear up for battle — and can’t imagine how to find relief.
However, relief is possible. To get relief from these kinds of impinging toxic feelings, they must be “off-loaded.” And healthy off-loading occurs when we talk honestly, expel, express, and no longer “hold everything together,” no longer “contain it all.” This requires a reliable frame/relationship with a trained and trusted clinician who can meet you where you are.
When you feel seen, heard, and understood — you will have ground for feeling better in yourself and for making healthy choices in every relationship, every interaction.
And of course, in each session, as needed, you will get practical help with how to establish boundaries, how to communicate, and how to position yourself to your advantage.
I offer a free 20-minute phone consultation so you can ask me questions and find out if we are a good fit. Call me: 828.318.6283.
An excellent free resource for dealing with separation/divorce issues is Second Saturday. An online venue for the Boulder area, it meets on the second Saturday of every month. It provides legal, financial, and therapeutic expertise and the presenters are available for any questions you might have.
You can’t change things unless you talk about them